10 Quick and Easy things You can do Each Day to Spice up Your Love Life

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Spicing things up is an ongoing process. It doesn’t happen overnight. In fact, it requires a committment to regular small steps to move you toward a more healthy and passionate relationship.

There are little things that you can do every single day that don’t take much time, but really make a huge difference in your relationship over the long term.

Here are 10 quick and easy things you can do each day to spice up your love life. Try one each day for the next 10 days and see what happens in your relationship…

1. Early morning cuddle

Before you hop out of bed in the morning, snuggle up to your lover for just a minute or two. Caress their back, hold them close, and just enjoy being physically close to them.

Step it up a notch by giving them a quick massage right where they need it. Do they have a sore back or shoulders? Spend just a minute working that for them before they get out of bed. It can just be a quick one-handed massage, while you lie curled up against their back. It doesn’t have to be a big affair.

2. Write a note

Hand-written notes are not old fashioned and out of date. They mean just as much now as they used to. Actually, let me dare to say that they mean MORE now than they used to! We are all emailing, texting, instant messaging, calling, and communicating in other ways with technology. Taking the time to hand-write a personal note is an awesome way to let your lover know that you really do care about them.

Step it up a notch by making it a sexy note, maybe with a mention of something you want to do to or with them….

3. Give them a compliment

Like hand-written notes, compliments NEVER go out of style. A heart-felt compliment can leave someone smiling for a whole day! Think of something that you really like about your partner – do they look great in those jeans? Do they have an awesome smile? Do you just love the color of their eyes? Whatever it is, TELL them about it.

Step it up a notch by giving them one compliment every day for just a week. It can even be a small seemingly insignificant compliment – it will mean a LOT to them.

4. Random phone call or email

Technology can be a wonderful tool for sparking up some romance. If you already talk to them on the phone or by email several times a day, then pick another mode to send your message. Choose something that you don’t normally use and let them know that you are thinking about THEM and only them right now.

Step it up a notch by making it a sexy message, telling them how much you want THEM right now…

5. Do a chore

It doesn’t have to be a huge time-consuming chore. It could be something as simple as folding their laundry, taking out the trash if it’s usually their job, or tidying up the kitchen after dinner. Pick something that they normally do as part of their daily routine and suprise them by doing it for them.

Step it up a notch and pick a day to be their “slave for a day”. Have them make up a little list of some things that they would really like some help with. Or just some things that you can do to give them a break.

6. 5-minute massage

A quickie massage can be a great way to let someone know that you care. It doesn’t have to be an hour or 30 minutes, even just 5 minutes can make a difference.

Have them sit or lie down and give them a nice, attentive massage wherever it matters most for them. Sore neck? Focus on that. Sore back? Focus on that. Are their feet killing them? Massage their feet. Give them 5 minutes of focused massage and watch what a difference it makes for them.

Step it up a notch by turning that 5 minute massage into a sexy 15 minute erotic massage… It still doesn’t have to be long (although you can make it longer if you want!).

7. Favorite comfort food

What is your partner’s favorite food? This might be a dish, a snack, a candy, or something else. Pick something that you know they love, but that they don’t necessarily have very often. This is a good one to do when you’re out doing the grocery shopping. You can just grab it and add it to your cart, then surprise them with it when you get home. They’ll be delighted that you thought of them.

Step it up a notch by cooking them their favorite meal, complete with their favorite music and other mood setting enhancements. If they like candles and soft music, do that. If they like snacks and a movie, do that. If they like picnics outdoors, do that.

8. Say I love you

Those three words are powerful. If you don’t say “I love you” often enough, then make a point to say it when it’s least expected. Maybe you normally say it when you’re saying goodbye or before going to sleep. Try saying it when you’re in the middle of a conversation or sneak up behind them when they’re washing the dishes or doing something around the house. Slip your arms around them and whisper it in their ear. You can bet it will make them feel special!

Step it up a notch by doing this once a day for a week, and each day look for a new unexpected opportunity. You want to have them guessing when you might pop up to let them know how you feel about them…

9. Tell them one thing you appreciate about them

Everyone wants to be appreciated, and your partner is no exception. You may think that they know you appreciate them. But if you don’t actually tell them, they may not know afterall. And even if they do know, they STILL like to hear it.

Think of something that your partner does, or a quality they have, or something about them that you REALLY appreciate. Do they help out around the house? Do they take good care of the kids? Do they cheer you up when you’re feeling down? Do they make you laugh? What is it that you really appreciate about them?

Step it up a notch by hosting an “award dinner” in their honor. Invite your friends, family or whoever is important to both of you. Brag your partner up to them and tell them how much you appreciate them. Not only do we like to be told that we are appreciated, but we love to hear people talk about us to OTHERS as well. It will give your partner an extra boost.

10. Ask them what you can do to support them

It’s so easy to get caught up in our own stuff and forget that our partner might need some support, as well. You are a team, afterall. Find out what you can do to support your partner.

It could be something really small, like some of the little things mentioned earlier in the article. Or it might be a bit bigger. But you won’t know until you ASK. And they’ll really appreciate the support!

Step it up a notch by asking every day what you can do to support them that day. Try it just for a week and see how it goes…

These 10 simple tips can really make a big difference in your relationship. By putting yourself out there and looking for ways to make your partner feel good, to support them, to make a difference in their life, they will in turn be more eager to support you more and to appreciate you more.

And you can bet I’ll be reviewing this list and implementing some of these things in my own relationship.